This isn’t a review (if it was one, it would probably set a record in procrastination), I mean; the movie has already touched the 100 cr mark. While numbers don’t interest me, it does go on to prove that our audience is now ready to accept mature and usually untouched topics.
The ones who have seen Dear Zindagi already know this, but the ones who haven’t, here’s a little heads up before I get to my point.
Shahrukh Khan is Jug, Alia Bhatt’s friendly and adorable therapist who doesn’t mind bending a few harmless rules while scrupulously maintaining his professional boundaries with his patients. His methods of slowly but surely letting her peel off one layer of her brash and unsettling exterior after another to uninhibitedly accept and move over her pent up emotions like insecurity of losing someone, jealousy, anger towards her parents etc are inspiring, to say the least.
What drives the point home, here, is the fact that they have a strictly platonic doctor-patient relationship that works beautifully in her favour. For fear of having to add any spoiler alert here, let’s leave it at this.
Can someone who knows us, say family, a friend, spouse or anyone we are close to, be our jug without carrying the baggage of our past? Doesn’t our equation with them have some bearing on what they feel about us or our lives? Can we pour the resentment in our heart out to people who are probably, in some way, responsible for it?
Shahrukh’s line in the movie, something like, “Romantic relationships shouldn’t have to bear the burden of too many expectations or relations.” is possibly one of the best I’ve heard in a long time. Does that mean we can have as many jugs as we have relationships too? Do we choose our jugs or someone just transforms into one with time?
Yes, I do have specific people I look up to for specific things. Someone I like to hang out with, someone I like to share recipes with, someone I like to have a heart-to-heart with, someone who I unabashedly vent out to, or someone I remember mostly when I’m in a soup, and so on. A may or may not feature in any of them, and I think it’s alright.
What do you think? Do you have a jug or many jugs in your life?