I’m sitting in a restaurant with a couple of girl friends. One of them has a creative and fascinating job profile and has travelled the world on work assignments. She has just changed jobs, got promoted and can’t stop gushing about it. Not willing to steal her thunder we’re playing along with appropriate responses.
After she realises she has repeated the same things over several times, she decides to turn the discussion to us petty-achieving souls (read homemakers).
M : *to me* Please Varsh, I beg of you. You need to go shopping with me. Your sense of style is gruelling to my eyes. This X brand has a wonderful collection. Try it out.
I smile, and say “Ok!”
After some time, again she starts.
M : *this time to A (the other girl)* Are you wearing a deodorant? For God’s sake, use a perfume. I use this Y brand. Any fragrance you choose, it is simply awesome. Try it out.
A looks at me and smiles, adding the same “Ok!”
The food arrives, and this well-travelled lass comes up with a zillion things about food from several countries and how ‘desi’ Indian restaurants make them taste. The rest of us are the silent spectators of the evening. Apparently, our boring family lives aren’t worth mentioning or talking about.
We gallantly survive the self-indulgence, somehow. The bill arrives and for the first time in the whole evening, she goes mute. We mentally calculate our share and remove the necessary change from our wallets, while she collects it from us and offers to pay with her card.
Interestingly, her card gets turned down (not for the first time on our dinner dates). She has no cash on her (as always), or so she says. We end up paying for her and also drop her to her place since she has nothing to pay for the auto. High-flying job, right!
Does dropping a few brand names make someone feel elite? I have seen people who won’t stop at not-so-subtly diverting peoples’ attention to their branded purses and then flaunting their names. With all due credit to my parents and teachers, I’m still in touch with my reading prowess, thank you.
Courtesy, compassion or self-accountability are personal virtues. Work, travel or experience do not have an influence on them. A person’s beauty is not in what he/she wears or shows, it is in the way she makes others feel about him/her.